If you want the youngsters to cooperate more enthusiastically, let them help plan and make decisions. Enlist their help in making up the rules. Give them a say in where to put things, how to arrange the furniture. They’ll be far more committed when they’ve had input. Parents have veto power, of course.
If a family prays out loud together--not just before meals, but at other times, too--each will learn of the others’ deepest thoughts, concerns, and hopes. Those roots will go so deep that no flood or storm will be able to uproot them.
You might consider, as a family, creating a mission statement such as businesses do. The statement could include what the family stands for and what it stands against.
You might work as a family to draw up some agreements, values, and standards that guide decisions and behavior, establishing the understanding that being a part of this family means we do certain things and we don’t do certain things.
4 cups rice*
1 large bay leaf
1 cup chopped onion
1/4 cup butter
2 cups dairy sour cream (Fat-free works fine.)
1 cup cream-style cottage cheese
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/8 teaspoon pepper
1 (4-oz.) can chopped green chilies, including the juice
2 cups shredded sharp natural Cheddar cheese
In a 2 1/2-quart saucepan, cook the rice with the bay leaf.
Lightly grease a 2-quart baking dish.
In a 12-inch skillet, saute the onion in the butter until golden, about 5 minutes.
Remove the bay leaf from the rice and discard.
Stir all the remaining ingredients in with the rice, saving 1 cup of the cheese and the parsley. Pour into the casserole dish and sprinkle the rest of the cheese on top.
Bake at 375 degrees, uncovered, for 25 minutes.
Garnish with parsley.