Children in shame-based homes are not held accountable for their behavior. They’re just yelled at, insulted, and sometimes hit. They’re not required to clean up their mess nor make amends for harm done, but they’re never let off the hook, either. Their self-esteem is destroyed, little by little. Children in respectful homes are not demeaned for mistakes and destructive behavior; they are required to clean up the situation, with no further discussion. Then, they’re off the hook. Self-esteem is still intact.
Where families expect perfection from each other, failure is certain. When anyone fails to live up to the standard, he is shamed. Shame is about who we are; guilt is about what we’ve done. Shame is usually life-long, worn like a suit of clothes. Guilt is assuaged when we make amends.
Turnip Greens and Smashed Biscuits
3 strips bacon
1 (1-pound) package frozen turnip greens
1 tablespoon water
Salt to taste
Chop the bacon into very small pieces.
In a slow cooker or Dutch oven, fry the bacon until brown and crisp.
Add the turnips, water, and salt.
Cover and cook on low for 2 hours.
Serve with hot pepper vinegar, Louisiana style.
Makes 4-6 servings.
1 package frozen jumbo biscuits
Place on a baking sheet and put into the refrigerator overnight to thaw and rise.
Using a wide spatula, mash each biscuit down flat.
Bake according to package directions.